Quite the puzzle: No matter what you do or how hard you try, you always get drawn to toxic relationships.
People with past trauma tend to end up in situations that cause them similar trauma.
It’s not that you consciously do it, you just can’t seem to stop yourself from landing in these situations.
In cases such as these, people often ask themselves “why do I keep sabotaging myself”? If you take a closer look at trauma reenactment, you will see exactly why that happens.
Individuals who experience trauma reenactment have trouble differentiating between the emotional pain that happened in the past and the one that envelopes them now. Through reenactment, their painful feelings keep accumulating. The same thing happens with new circumstances or experiences.
According to research, trauma sufferers and survivors develop a range of psychiatric symptoms. They constantly recall a traumatic experience or original trauma. They tend to avoid anything that’s associated with anxiety or hypervigilance. This is a spontaneous reenactment and usually unconscious behavior.
Traumatic stress is more common than people realize. Roughly 70% of adults have at least a single traumatic event in their life. 20% of victims of trauma develop PTSD. Plus, 1 in 13 individuals develops PTSD at a certain stage in life.
Victims are used to living in toxicity and chaos. They see the world through different eyes, which is filled with dysfunction, stress, bad relationships, physical or sexual abuse. The events in their life have created this “cycle of doom”, which became their new “normal”. It’s not uncommon for victims to become addicted to this chaos. They can also develop an intense attachment to people who resemble their former abuser.
Many theories exist as to why that happens. Based on reports from Sigmund Freud, a repetition compulsion is an attempt to master and control the psychological responses or stimuli to earlier trauma. The memories of something traumatic are unintegrated, non-verbal, and dissociated. It’s difficult for victims to establish conscious control, experts explain.
Childhood trauma sufferers have low self-esteem and inadequate coping strategies, making them an easy target for predators. This can occur in both women and men. Trauma in childhood is such a predominant issue that over two-thirds of children have reported having one traumatic experience by the age of 16. Whether that child experienced sexual abuse, mental, or bodily abuse. For younger individuals, original trauma can severely impact their well-being and emotional stability. A person that survives such a bad memory is burdened by impairments in memory, cognition, and self-care. They also have trouble seeking stable relationships.
When reenactment does happen, the person takes the role of either the perpetrator or the victim. In fact, 56% of criminals (male inmates) reported having childhood physical trauma. Sexual trauma was less common affecting 10% of inmates. But, from their experiences, we can see that previous patterns and destructive behaviors are prevalent in traumatized individuals. In order to cope with the extreme stress, children are more likely to seek to dissociate themselves. All in an effort to defend themselves from shame or bad memories. Isolation and constriction are a natural consequence of trauma, research shows. That’s why these individuals feel unsafe, disconnected, bored, or have inner emptiness. These are all typical features found in chronic depression. Particularly in abused survivors.
No. Reenactments are just a self coping mechanism. It won’t necessarily turn you into a criminal. Most of the harm you are causing is to yourself. That’s why a lot of people who’ve been in abusive environments or other events are vulnerable to addiction, self-harm, eating disorders, avoiding medical treatment, putting themselves in harm’s way, etc. If that's the case, then call our staff at Diamond Rehab in Thailand and book an appointment today.
The Diamond Rehab center in Thailand brings hope to everyone. Regardless if you’ve been a victim of fraud, addiction, sexually abused-treatment can help. A therapist can provide the ultimate therapeutic approach that will be tailored to your needs. We can suggest one or more options to treat the behavior. For example:
According to Harvard experts, psychotherapy could ensure lasting symptom reduction. Not only are therapies here to make your condition and pain more manageable. But they can also teach you how to develop key skills and knowledge that can help you evaluate and identify your irrational thoughts. It can help women with arousal, especially if they’ve been with an abusive partner, for example. You will then learn to replace them with less negative and more accurate thoughts. However, don’t expect the healing process to happen overnight. Trauma recuperation requires dedication, determination, courage, and constant practice. With an expert by your side, you can learn to overcome many obstacles along the way. Our team at Diamond Rehab, Thailand will make sure of it. But, unless you put in the effort, the process can feel like running a marathon. So, give yourself time to recover. Eventually, you can achieve the desired result.
Trauma may pull you down, create pressure, and hopelessness. While reenactment of the past may seem like it’s consuming your future when seeking a stable relationship. But, this pain can be managed. You can put the related fear behind you and lead a healthier and fuller life. Contact us today! We can help every woman and man topple revictimization and turn over a new leaf.